22 Oct 2011

Lunch on the Orient Express

In the words of Hercule Poirot in Murder on the Orient Express, 'The impossible could not have happened, therefore the impossible must be possible in spite of appearances'. 

And so it is that I find myself sitting with my partner in the sumptuous surroundings of a 1920's restored British Pullman carriage on the Orient Express. What has lead to the almost impossible being possible, that I am here and about to enjoy a five course luncheon?

I randomly entered a competition on the Facebook page of Red Letter Days  and happened to win! Red Letter Days offer a range of wonderful and exciting experiences in all price ranges to suit many different occassions. I remember buying a Ferrari experience for my sons 21st birthday and he still talks about it with great enthusiasm 6 years later. 
Well I entered the competition in celebration of Red Letter Days 22nd birthday and then forgot all about it. Several weeks later I had a random tweet from somone telling me I'd won and that the people at Red Letter Days had been trying to get hold of me. I whizzed over to their Facebook page as quick as my web browser would allow and true enough I had won the prize! I could hardly contain my excitement as a trip on the Orient Express was one of those things I had dreamed of ever since I saw Judith Chalmers take a trip on 'Wish You Were Here". 

The tickets arrived about a week before departure in a very lovely leather document wallet and for the next few days I kept visiting the British Pullman website to whet my appetite. This was rather like when a child tries to peek at their birthday presents before the day, I could feel the excitement rising daily! 

Finally the day is here! I woke at 5am and just couldn't get back to sleep so I dozed and imagined what it might be like on board, who else might be there and whether I would be suitably dressed for the occassion. 
My partner Jay and I arrived at Bournemouth station and joined the throng of other people waiting expectantly clutching their leather ticket holders and chattering excitedly. I looked around and felt satisfied that we were both adequately attired and waited for the train to arrive. 

Bang on time, the iconic Art Deco British Pullman carriages rolled alongside us on the platform as nearly everyone on the platform leans forward to get the all important first picture. 














We checked our tickets for the name of the carriage and seat numbers and make our way along the platform. There is a real wow factor as you catch a glimpse through the window of the carriages and for me a quiet snort to myself as I think of all the times I have been sandwiched on a South West train service.  
Following a quick photo we then board the train for our trip. 

From the moment we speak to the first steward we feel special. Not in an 'aren't we special' snotty way but in a 'how wonderful we feel kind of way. Taking our seats in Lucille (the name of our carriage) we take a moment to absorb the style and quality of our surrounds. 
The carriage is wonderful, with just 24 beautifully upholstered seats. But these are no ordinary seats, these are British Pullman seats (said in a Marks and Spencers ad style). When I say seats, don't picture usual train seats no, these are gloriously comfortable armchairs and perfect to settle into as our steward offered us a welcome glass of perfectly chilled champagne.
Our carriage Lucille was built in 1928 for the Queen of Scots Pullman and ran the Bournemouth Belle in the 60's. So for us to be taking a lunch trip from Bournemouth this was the perfect carriage for us. 
The design was Grecia Urn with splendid marquetry on the dyed Holly wood panels. 


As we prepared to depart on our journey I spent some time just looking around at the beautiful and detailed surroundings. Exquisitely set table with crystal glass ware and crisp table cloth and napkins. Highly polished brass lamps and equally polished brass luggage racks overhead.  It was like stepping back into the 1920's and 30's and I imagined I was a lady of substance sipping my champagne whilst watching the world wizz by the window. 


After choosing the wine, a rather nice White Burgandy, we were served with our appetiser. 
Mine was a mushroom stroganoff and Jay had a wild river trout and green peppercorn terrine. We were served perfectly warm rolls to accompany the food and so started our first of five courses!


It can be no mean feat preparing beautiful high quality food for over 200 people whilst on board a train and yet it arrived cooked to perfection and was served with elegance and class. 
There was just the right amount of time in between courses so that we did not feel hurried or ignored. Our stewards were attentive and charming.
The train Manaager Mr Jeff Monk, passed through the train and stopped by us to chat. He used to be on the London to Venice route for many years and we marvelled at the wonderful time he must have had the people he had met. 


We passed through the New Forest and Southampton and on toward Basingstoke, however it didn't really feel like a train journey at all, in fact I almost forgot I was on a train at all. It is difficult to adequately articulate just how wonderful it felt to be having lunch here, but it had been an ambition of mine for many years after seeing travel programmes that heralded the wonder of a trip on the Orient Express. 


Our next course followed which was a delicious red pepper soup with creamy chive creme fraiche swirled through it. More warm bread rolls were served and our glasses magically filled by the steward. 






The main course for me was a delicious vegetable stack on polenta served with celeriac and chive mash and roasted baby root vegetables. Jay had rack of herb encrusted organic lamb. 


As we slowed to a stop at Basingstoke station, a South West train pulled alongside us. It was a rather comedy moment as people peered in at us and we peered out at them. Jay raised his glass to a women on the other train who laughed and raised her crisp packet and an imaginary glass acknowledging the dichotomy of the moment.  


As we passed though stations people took photos as we passed and there were those who knew the route we would take and what time we'd be there as they were waiting ready with video cameras and excited smiles.


Once our main course had gone done we were offered a selection of British cheeses with homemade green tomato chutney and crackers. This was perfect to accompany the last of our wine and by now I was starting to feel that I shouldn't eat another thing. 


Never one to listen to myself very often I did actually manage to scoff half a glass of apple banoffee cheesecake before the lunch was rounded off with coffee. 


Over coffee (and probably enhanced by a little alcohol) Jay and I start to discuss what defines character. Well some would say that the Orient Express is full of character, with its art deco interiors, glamour and opulance taking one back in time to a different era. But what exactly is character we wondered. What is its essence? I don't think we came to any mind startling conclusions but it seemed that deep discussion felt perfectly appropriate in such surroundings. 


Our Train Manager suggested it was worth taking a walk into the other carriages as each was different. It was marvellous walking the length of the train and I half expected to see David Suchet come past with his neat upward curled moustache. He did not appear and I guess that thankfully this was an indication that there would be no murder on this Orient Express. 


As we drew nearer to the end of our trip we both felt like we had been thoroughly spoilt, treated like royalty and had experienced something truely memorable. 


I should like to thank the marvellous people at Red Letter Days who made this all possible for us and the stewards in our carriage who added value to the whole experience. 


To find out more about the Orient Express journeys through England click here

                                  
                                             All that's left for me to say now is Cheers!!!!






14 Oct 2011

The Me Inside

'Awww she has her mothers eyes and her fathers nose." A typical comment adoring visitors make when they first clap eyes on a new baby in the family. For those children who are adopted, and I am one, they may never ever know who's eyes or nose they have. 
Think about it for a moment. All the comments people make about behaviour traits, height, interests and other genetic markers that reinforce a childs sense of belonging are just not there with an adopted child. How might you feel if this was you? Difficult to imagine isn't it? 
Yet for thousands of children and adults this reality is something they live with each day. There is often a sense of who am I and where do I fit into the picture of this family? I can remember people saying that my brother and I looked alike and my mother saying how amazing it was as we were both adopted. I think people felt that children grew to look like their parents. It sort of reminded me of the expression that dogs grow to look like their owners! 


Being able to see yourself in another person, mirroring them, is an essential part of child development and the fundamental cornerstone to identity. For me, as an adopted person, I never saw myself in my adoptive parents and believe this affected my confidence and sense of who I am. I am intuitive and noted early on that my deep feelings and beliefs were different from my adoptive mothers. I didn't know it until years later but I was yearning for that sense of belonging and as I type this it makes my eyes sting as I realise that an esential part of me was lost for so many years. 


Not only did I have little information about my genetic history, I had very little information at all about my first mother. It is difficult to develop a rational picture or story about oneself with little information on which to base it. It therefore becomes a fantasy something even more removed from the reality that it probably is, but a sereally comforting place for a child to place themselves, protect themselves from someone elses reality- the adoptive families reality. 


Fast forward 50 years and things may seem different. I have travelled an interesting journey and stumbled along the way however I have grown and developed into the Me I am now. I have a relationship with my first mother and so I can at last see myself in anothers eyes. 


Adoption is a hugely complex issue and the way people respond to it cannot be summed up in one neat sentence. For some people their adoption journey is fraught with soul searching and a nagging sense of 'who am I really', whilst for others they seem to sail through life without so much as a question. No two stories are the same however many adopted people resonate with each others stories or parts thereof. 


The fact that we each have different stories and journeys has prompted me to set up a new social network for people affected by adoption. It is a place to share our journey with others with whom it may resonate, it is a place to find comfort in knowing that our journey (whilst travelled alone) does not always have to be lonely.  It is challenging for non adopted people to understand the emotions and feelings felt by an adopted person and often people find it hard to talk about the subject in a supportive way. The Me Inside offers a nurturing environment so that adopted people can share and talk to others who will be able to empathise in a real way. 


Adopted people are often creative people and already we have people on the site with published works. There is an opportunity to share video or poetry and a section to review books about adoption. 



In the first few months the site has attracted people from across the globe. It is growing slowly and for some who have joined it is just a case of knowing its there when needed whilst for others its a place to share and discuss our journey and thoughts. 
I'd like the site to evolve and grow in the way in which the members decide so that it becomes a real on line community for those affected by adoption. 

I wish that earlier in my adoption journey there was a place where I could feel part of a community as for me and maybe others, the journey to find The Me Inside can be a lonely one. 


If you have been affected by adoption and want to feel the support of others then please feel free to join us at The Me Inside


In the UK we shall be celebrating National Adoption Week between 31st Oct and 6 Nov 2011. This is an opportunity for people to share their experiences of adoption in all aspects and to inspire people to consider adopting a child. All children deserve a forever family and so if you think this is something you might like to consider then please contact the British Association of Adoption and Fostering by clicking here


To find out about National Adoption Week and how you could be involved just visit National Adoption Week. 


Postscript:


I've amazingly been shortlisted in the National Adoption Week film competition! People were asked to make a 2 minute film on what adoption means to them, so I grabbed my iphone and did a little something. 

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